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10 Early Warning Signs of Domestic Violence

10 Signs that the person you're with is prone to be abusive, from the National Network to End Domestic Violence.

How do you know if you are in an abusive relationship—or headed down that certain path? Trust your instincts. Survivors of domestic violence say that they knew something wasn’t right, but ignored the following patterns of behavior that they later recognized as potential early warning signs that the person they were dating would turn out to be abusers. According to this list compiled by the National Network to End Domestic Violence, someone who exhibits the behavior outlined below is either abusive or could become so. 

Rages out of control and is impulsive

Gets angry so easily that you feel like you're "walking on eggshells"

Calls you names such as "stupid" or "bitch,” or tells you that you are “crazy”

•  Wants to move too quickly into the relationship

•  Is excessively jealous and wants to know where you are all of the time

Takes no responsibility for his behavior and blames others

•  Grew up in an abusive or violent home

Insists that you stop spending time with your friends or family

Insists that you stop participating in leisure interests

•  Hits walls, drive dangerously, or does other things to scare you

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